25 Frustrating Things About Being An Extrovert

hey guyz , just take some time out and have a look at this link...its amazing truely......njoy


http://www.buzzfeed.com/jessicamisener/frustrating-things-about-being-an-extrovert

1. Having a weekend night off, but no one is available to hang out.

2. Being upset and needing to talk it out with at least three different people.

3. When new friends think you’re “too clingy” because you’re initiating all of the hangouts.

4. Blurting out your thoughts on something before they’re necessarily fully formed.

5. When you come home and want to just drink wine and talk about your day with someone, but your roommate isn’t willing to hang out.

6. Feeling like you should have more shame or sense of embarrassment than you do, because you don’t mind being the center of attention.

7. People thinking you’re “needy” when you’re just trying to recharge by connecting with someone.

8. When everyone talks about how all they want to do is stay home and be on Tumblr and marathon Netflix, and you’re just like.

9. Dealing with unexpected alone time.

10. Sensing that you’re talking too much in meetings.

11. …or talking too much at work or in class in general, because it’s second nature to you.

12. When the cashier at the grocery store is like:

13. Because once you get going, sometimes you can’t stop.

14. When everyone near you at work is wearing headphones and you just want to chat.

15. Talking with your hands all the time. Maybe even TOO much.

16. Feeling more comfortable working with a large group than working by yourself.

17. Having those “OH MY GOD I NEED TO BE AROUND PEOPLE” days…

18. …but on the flip side, people expect you to ALWAYS be the life of the party.

19. You want to do yoga or meditate, but the thought of being silent for that long seems exhausting.

20. Being home alone.

21. Making your introvert friend semi-uncomfortable with all of your talking.

22. Being labeled “too intense.”

23. Feeling like you’re burning out from socializing constantly, but also feeling like you can’t stop.

24. Wondering if your voice is too loud.

25. Feeling stereotyped as shallow or unintellectual because you’re not an introvert.

26, unmarried, and childless

What’s Next?”
Both of my brothers recently had kids that more than likely complete their families. They’re both older than me, so it makes sense they’re at a different stage. They met and married their wives, they bought dogs and they had kids, all in a nice little sequence. I love watching them build their lives together. It’s a really good thing. When my last brother got married, I was in my early twenties. No one uttered anything about me getting married then.
But now? I’m 26 years old, unmarried, and childless. The comments are starting.
“What’s next?”
“When are you getting married?”
“Babies look good on you!”
“Better get started!”
I shouldn’t be overly concerned with what they’re saying. They’re only teasing or encouraging me with the next step in my life. It’s harmless! No one means anything by it, it’s just time for me to be heading in the same direction as my peers. It makes sense. I get it.
But it doesn’t feel very nice.

Believe me, I am fully aware that I am unmarried and childless. Heck, I don’t even have a real job at this point in time. I’m aware that I’m getting older. I’m aware that I’m not following the same patterns as my parents or my brothers or many of my peers. I’m aware that my biological clock is ticking. OH MY GOSH I AM SO AWARE.
So when you — friends, family, acquaintances, Twitter followers and blog readers — remind me that I’m far behind where one would expect to be at my age, it makes me feel broken. I feel like I’ve done something wrong. I feel like I’m letting you down or making some horrible mistake.

Instead of relishing in the freedom, blessings and limitless possibilities that this stage of life offers me, I am left frozen, feeling like I’m not enough. Like what I’ve done doesn’t really matter or that I’ve accomplished nothing. I’m an outcast. I’m defective. I’m panicked. When you comment on my life stage as if there was something I could do to change it, it makes me feel inadequate. Most days I truly do love where I’m at right now, but when people question my marital status, I think I’m messing up my chances to do anything worthwhile with my life.
What if my ultimate goal has nothing to do with marriage or kids or a career? What if my aim was to love people well, and to fully embrace the gifts I’ve been given? Would that be enough? What if my life goal was to simply run the race, to be called a good and faithful servant at the end of it all? Maybe that would mean marriage and children and a thriving career, but maybe it wouldn’t. Is it ok if it doesn’t?


When you ask when I’m getting married, I don’t have an answer for you. When you hint at me having kids, it makes me jealous of new parents. When you prod about my lack of a stable career, I get frustrated. When you ask these questions, it doesn’t help me grow. It doesn’t help me feel content with where I am. It does more damage than you realize. Maybe you’re just trying to make conversation or small talk, or maybe you’re genuinely interested in my life. For that, I’m very appreciative.

I would like to suggest one thing, though: instead of asking me what’s next, ask me what’s now. Ask me what God is teaching me, ask me what I’m struggling with, or what brings me joy. I am learning, I am growing, and I am happy. I would love to tell you all about it.
I am 26 years old. I don’t have a husband. I don’t have children. I don’t have a career. I don’t have what people expect I should have, but I am abundantly blessed with absurd, exhilarating, and fantastic things I would have never dreamed up on my own.
So please, my dear friends, don’t ask me what’s next. Ask me what’s now.


 A WONDERFUL STORY that i read in recent past ... compelled me to share it with you guyz....
 SOURCE :- http://convergemagazine.com/26-unmarried-and-childless-8736/

Note :P

it's safe to say that I am awesome   wink ***. People I really loved your comments. Many of you can clearly relate to my feelings about the semi-ridiculous online state of things with me . But this blog has always been a happy space for me. Needless to say, I was never really considering doing away with it entirely, but am looking for a way to make it work better for this new phase….
After having some time to think and play around and gather my thoughts, I know I will always like the challenge of blogging—of seeking out ideas and objects and finding ways to share them in a unusual and personal way. And that's just it. I like the making. I like the act of piecing a post together—of cutting things out and scooting them around the Photoshop file, playing with typefaces, adding and editing down to what I finally feel proud share. And the best posts? They take plenty of time, thought and consideration. But the effort is what makes it worthwhile...
With this in mind, things must change. It's time for the pace to become more considered and thoughtful. So, here I go. I'm taking that first step back to "slow blogging." What you'll find here is more design and less noise, more resources for you and less gimmicks (if there ever were any to begin with.) Off the top of my head. 

Agenda for the Week: (If I make a list, I'll have to commit!)
·    Playlist: July (Finally!)
·    Funny Pictures (without offence :P)
·    Advice: only your column...
Thanks for reading, commenting, and the words of encouragement. It's always nice to know I'm not alone in my thoughts. Have a wonderful week, everyone!

Thanks for reading, commenting, and the words of encouragement. It's always nice to know I'm not alone in my thoughts. Have a wonderful week, everyone!

F.R.I.E.N.D.S

These lines are dedicated to my college life, my stupid friends ,sexy seniors and all naughty juniors.....

Waha ki dhoop bhi achi lagti thi
Yahan k AC me bhi aaram nahi

Wahan Ghaas pe baithna bhi acha lagta tha
yaha Chairs pe bhi chain nahi hai

Wahan k sade se samose bhi kya swadisht hote the
Yahan ka cheez burst Pizza me bhi swad nahi

College Bus aur woh doston ki gadiyon pe baith ke gaaye hue gaano ki jaise ab dhun bhi yaad nahi
Ab bas samne ek laptop screen hai aur hasne layak koi mazak nahi

Faculty se ladte waqt ye pata bhi na the ki Manager ke samne kuch bol bhi ni payenge
Ab toh yeh tak bhi pata nahi hota ki hum wapas Ghar kab jayenge

Ek jhuti muskurahat k kiyea hum jaise jee rahe hai
Zindagi ka koi bhi ghum ho office ke kaam k saath pee rahe hai

Subah ka ek msg "aaj nahi chalte hai yaar"
Ab "its 9.30 Where the fuck are you ??" me badal gaya hai.

Pehle best friend k bday pe cake na laye to gussa ho jate the
aaj toh Best friend se b'day pe mil bhi nahi pana ho raha hai

Woh college group ki ladaiyaan jo agle din hi bhul jate the
aaj manager aur subordinate ki jung me tabdeel hua patein hai

Exam hall ki "ek line bata de yaar"
wo ek line ab google pe bhi nahi mil rahi hai

Pehle jinhe ghanto baith ke hasate the
aaj unse jee bhar k baat karne ka bhi time nahi hai

Pehle jinse mile bin din nahi kat ta tha
aaj unke bina zindagi kat rahi hai

wo mid sem me ek shabd bhi na likhne ki azadi
aaj jaise badi badi excel sheet update karne ki majburi me tabdeel ho gayi hai

"tune kitna padha plz mujhe bhi padhne de yaar" yahan koi nahi sunata
"i have done my work please review it" hi humari favourite line ban gayi hai.

Kal jinke lyea jaan tak dene ko tayaar the
aaj unse baat karne k lyea bhi hum soche baar baar hai

Kal k sapne aaj sach ho rahe hai
par saath sapne dekhne wale dost aaj door ho gaye hai

Zindagi ki kash ma kash me hum yeh tak bhool gaye hai
kal tak jo apne the aaj begaane ho gaye hai

dil kehta saari bandishe tod ke wapas chale jayee...
ek baar for apne frnds k paas laut jaaye.......................

There is little Kindness in each one of us..in every little step we take....

A beautiful video......

5 Quick Ways to Deal With the Confusion and Conflict Within You !!!!!

thought of sharing it with you about my thots!!!!

I am going through a transition ….and coz of that I was highly confused and conflicted….there is something going on and I feel it in some part of myself…..confused,disorganized,frustrated. I really don’t know what’s what anymore and life is not making ne sense….

Thou obviously it use to be logical and I was very sure what I had to do ,but now it’s all in the air…I know ,because I’ve been there and this is how I have started dealing with it……..

1.       Chaos

Before  anything new emerge , there is chaos…..similarly ,whenever I am about to have a break though I experience confusion and chaos…obviously confusion is a prerequisite state in order for me to have breakthrough experiences ….and its true that whenever I feel confused ,something or the other is definitely happening within me….

It doesn't always seem like that, but once I get through to the other side, it notice that something has changed for the better. The same thing happens whenever I  learn something new. At first, it seems confusing and it just doesn't make sense. But when I return to the material a few days or weeks later, suddenly the bulb lightens and I understand more than i did before.

2.       Acceptance

At times when the things are not going right I often feel like my whole life is crumbling away..at that time I have nothing to do than to accept whatever is going within me, truly its very hard in the beginning ,coz I found it scary to face my fears and all the negative emotions ..just like others I also tried to running from the emotions and it was leading me nowhere…then the last resort that I find is looking around how happy most people are (HINT :- they r miserable).

I Look inside and breathe into my emotions .accept whatever is there and get curious about what kind of shape my feelings are,what is the color and how are they moving within my body..it sounds crazy,but it does work yaa.

3.       Release 

My mum always tell me “the more you let go of old the easier my life will be ,if you try to hold on ,you suffer …letting go means opening to new ideas ,new opportunities ,Nothing is constant and they keep on coming and going ..the job you once had no longer exists but then it is not an end coz when one door closes ,another opens.The problem is that most people stay and knock at the closed door for the rest of their life. Then they wonder why no one is opening the door.This doesn't have to happen, because you can open your mind, release the old and embrace the new. This is scary, because it is the unknown.And we humans tend to like what's familiar. Even to the point where we will hold onto negative emotions and behaviors rather than let go, because they are more familiar. “ and this is what I have been implementing now and made it a key point for happy living. Love u Mum for this….!!!!

4.       Get Help

HELP HELP HELP  I have a strong belief that in order to speed  up my progress in any field I prefer first working with. I'm not talking about a psychotherapist. I'm talking about some people like Parents ,xperienced and well lead person, trustworthy friends,Mentor ,But only those whom you can trust and follow.

The reason I make these statements, is because in my life, the biggest changes have happened by taking help from the people mentioned above .You can't always see where you are stuck, and that is where another fresh pair of eyes comes in and that is a very reason why I value those few people more than my life. The problem is that most people don't like to ask for help, because it is viewed as a sign of weakness in today's society. I used to think like this as well, but I didn't start to really excel until I started opening up to coaching and getting feedback.

5.       Cycle 

History repeats ….so will this cycle  continually repeat itself, because that’s what cycles do. Just like a wave builds up and crashes and returns to the sea, so will our life have its ups and downs. The sooner I accept that, the better i will feel. Coz I know I  will go through confusion and clarity over and over again. It’s a part of life.

The bottom line is that most confusion and conflict is created within you. That means that you alone hold the keys to your salvation.

HERE I AM...a sweet poem on me...!!!!!!!! :)

I AM A GIRL!

I push doors that clearly say PULL!

I laugh harder when i try to explain why am laughing!

I walk in2 a room n 4get why i was der!

I try to cook even if its just maggi!

I lie sumtimes to hide the pain!

I cry for silly reasons...!

I limit infinity to the person who means a lot to me...!

I am not so strong as my smile seems to be!

I get attached to people who care even a little about me!

A broken nail is as painful as a broken heart!

I say its a long story when its realy not!

I fall into love too hard and too fast!

Then I take time to move on.

But once i realise its time to move on,I never look back!

Then life changes for good!

YES! am a girl and am freaking proud of it!!!!!