thought of sharing it with you about my thots!!!!
I am going through a transition ….and coz of that I was highly confused and conflicted….there is something going on and I feel it in some part of myself…..confused,disorganized,frustrated. I really don’t know what’s what anymore and life is not making ne sense….
Thou obviously it use to be logical and I was very sure what I had to do ,but now it’s all in the air…I know ,because I’ve been there and this is how I have started dealing with it……..
1. Chaos
Before anything new emerge , there is chaos…..similarly ,whenever I am about to have a break though I experience confusion and chaos…obviously confusion is a prerequisite state in order for me to have breakthrough experiences ….and its true that whenever I feel confused ,something or the other is definitely happening within me….
It doesn't always seem like that, but once I get through to the other side, it notice that something has changed for the better. The same thing happens whenever I learn something new. At first, it seems confusing and it just doesn't make sense. But when I return to the material a few days or weeks later, suddenly the bulb lightens and I understand more than i did before.
2. Acceptance
At times when the things are not going right I often feel like my whole life is crumbling away..at that time I have nothing to do than to accept whatever is going within me, truly its very hard in the beginning ,coz I found it scary to face my fears and all the negative emotions ..just like others I also tried to running from the emotions and it was leading me nowhere…then the last resort that I find is looking around how happy most people are (HINT :- they r miserable).
I Look inside and breathe into my emotions .accept whatever is there and get curious about what kind of shape my feelings are,what is the color and how are they moving within my body..it sounds crazy,but it does work yaa.
3. Release
My mum always tell me “the more you let go of old the easier my life will be ,if you try to hold on ,you suffer …letting go means opening to new ideas ,new opportunities ,Nothing is constant and they keep on coming and going ..the job you once had no longer exists but then it is not an end coz when one door closes ,another opens.The problem is that most people stay and knock at the closed door for the rest of their life. Then they wonder why no one is opening the door.This doesn't have to happen, because you can open your mind, release the old and embrace the new. This is scary, because it is the unknown.And we humans tend to like what's familiar. Even to the point where we will hold onto negative emotions and behaviors rather than let go, because they are more familiar. “ and this is what I have been implementing now and made it a key point for happy living. Love u Mum for this….!!!!
4. Get Help
HELP HELP HELP I have a strong belief that in order to speed up my progress in any field I prefer first working with. I'm not talking about a psychotherapist. I'm talking about some people like Parents ,xperienced and well lead person, trustworthy friends,Mentor ,But only those whom you can trust and follow.
The reason I make these statements, is because in my life, the biggest changes have happened by taking help from the people mentioned above .You can't always see where you are stuck, and that is where another fresh pair of eyes comes in and that is a very reason why I value those few people more than my life. The problem is that most people don't like to ask for help, because it is viewed as a sign of weakness in today's society. I used to think like this as well, but I didn't start to really excel until I started opening up to coaching and getting feedback.
5. Cycle
History repeats ….so will this cycle continually repeat itself, because that’s what cycles do. Just like a wave builds up and crashes and returns to the sea, so will our life have its ups and downs. The sooner I accept that, the better i will feel. Coz I know I will go through confusion and clarity over and over again. It’s a part of life.
The bottom line is that most confusion and conflict is created within you. That means that you alone hold the keys to your salvation.
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