5 Quick Ways to Deal With the Confusion and Conflict Within You !!!!!

thought of sharing it with you about my thots!!!!

I am going through a transition ….and coz of that I was highly confused and conflicted….there is something going on and I feel it in some part of myself…..confused,disorganized,frustrated. I really don’t know what’s what anymore and life is not making ne sense….

Thou obviously it use to be logical and I was very sure what I had to do ,but now it’s all in the air…I know ,because I’ve been there and this is how I have started dealing with it……..

1.       Chaos

Before  anything new emerge , there is chaos…..similarly ,whenever I am about to have a break though I experience confusion and chaos…obviously confusion is a prerequisite state in order for me to have breakthrough experiences ….and its true that whenever I feel confused ,something or the other is definitely happening within me….

It doesn't always seem like that, but once I get through to the other side, it notice that something has changed for the better. The same thing happens whenever I  learn something new. At first, it seems confusing and it just doesn't make sense. But when I return to the material a few days or weeks later, suddenly the bulb lightens and I understand more than i did before.

2.       Acceptance

At times when the things are not going right I often feel like my whole life is crumbling away..at that time I have nothing to do than to accept whatever is going within me, truly its very hard in the beginning ,coz I found it scary to face my fears and all the negative emotions ..just like others I also tried to running from the emotions and it was leading me nowhere…then the last resort that I find is looking around how happy most people are (HINT :- they r miserable).

I Look inside and breathe into my emotions .accept whatever is there and get curious about what kind of shape my feelings are,what is the color and how are they moving within my body..it sounds crazy,but it does work yaa.

3.       Release 

My mum always tell me “the more you let go of old the easier my life will be ,if you try to hold on ,you suffer …letting go means opening to new ideas ,new opportunities ,Nothing is constant and they keep on coming and going ..the job you once had no longer exists but then it is not an end coz when one door closes ,another opens.The problem is that most people stay and knock at the closed door for the rest of their life. Then they wonder why no one is opening the door.This doesn't have to happen, because you can open your mind, release the old and embrace the new. This is scary, because it is the unknown.And we humans tend to like what's familiar. Even to the point where we will hold onto negative emotions and behaviors rather than let go, because they are more familiar. “ and this is what I have been implementing now and made it a key point for happy living. Love u Mum for this….!!!!

4.       Get Help

HELP HELP HELP  I have a strong belief that in order to speed  up my progress in any field I prefer first working with. I'm not talking about a psychotherapist. I'm talking about some people like Parents ,xperienced and well lead person, trustworthy friends,Mentor ,But only those whom you can trust and follow.

The reason I make these statements, is because in my life, the biggest changes have happened by taking help from the people mentioned above .You can't always see where you are stuck, and that is where another fresh pair of eyes comes in and that is a very reason why I value those few people more than my life. The problem is that most people don't like to ask for help, because it is viewed as a sign of weakness in today's society. I used to think like this as well, but I didn't start to really excel until I started opening up to coaching and getting feedback.

5.       Cycle 

History repeats ….so will this cycle  continually repeat itself, because that’s what cycles do. Just like a wave builds up and crashes and returns to the sea, so will our life have its ups and downs. The sooner I accept that, the better i will feel. Coz I know I  will go through confusion and clarity over and over again. It’s a part of life.

The bottom line is that most confusion and conflict is created within you. That means that you alone hold the keys to your salvation.

HERE I AM...a sweet poem on me...!!!!!!!! :)

I AM A GIRL!

I push doors that clearly say PULL!

I laugh harder when i try to explain why am laughing!

I walk in2 a room n 4get why i was der!

I try to cook even if its just maggi!

I lie sumtimes to hide the pain!

I cry for silly reasons...!

I limit infinity to the person who means a lot to me...!

I am not so strong as my smile seems to be!

I get attached to people who care even a little about me!

A broken nail is as painful as a broken heart!

I say its a long story when its realy not!

I fall into love too hard and too fast!

Then I take time to move on.

But once i realise its time to move on,I never look back!

Then life changes for good!

YES! am a girl and am freaking proud of it!!!!!

Daud

Daud

ये दौड़  हैं संसार की, ये दौड़ हैं इन्सान की

दौड़ रहा इस दौड़ में,  जब से मै पैदा हुआ

माँ ने बोला मेरे लिए, तू तेज थोडा और दौड़ 

लोगो ने कहा क्या करेगा, ऐसे धीरे दौड़ के 

मैं और तेज दौड़ा, मैं और तेज दौड़ा

दौड़ दौड़ मे ना जाने, कब  बचपना निकल गया

बड़ा हुआ तो पैसो की, दौड़ में मैं पड़ गया

लटक रही तलवार, उमीदों की मेरे ऊपर

जीत लूगा इस दौड़ को मैं किसी भी हाल पर

यह सोच मैं दौड़ा, मैं और तेज दौड़ा

कभी मैं बीबी और, बच्चो के लिए दौड़ा

कभी उन आंसुओ को, मिटने के लिए दौड़ा

कभी उस गरीबी को, हटाने के लिए दौड़ा

यह सोच मैं भागता, भागता ही रहा

खड़ा हु उस मुकाम पर, राह ख़त्म होती दिख रही

सब दोस्त पीछे छुट  गये, सब यार पीछे रह  गये

जिनके लिए मैं दौड़ा, वो दुनिया से ही रूठ गये

अकेला खड़ा इस मोड़ में, सब छुट गया इस दौड़ में

अब लग रहा ये दौड़ हैं हैवान की शैतान की

समझ न आ रहा मुझे, क्यों मैं भागता रहा

यह सोच बाकी जिंदगी, मैं यू ही जागता जागता रहा 

यह सोच बाकी जिंदगी, मैं यू ही जागता जागता रहा .....

by one of my friend siddhart.

a true story.......

It was 25th January 2011. Nisha was waiting for her husband Akshay. It

was their marriage anniversary. Things have got changed since their

marriage. From the cute couple they turned into a fighting one. The

quarrel everyday on every small thing. Nisha gave up thinking that

Akshay must have forgotten their anniversary and surely won't be back

home on time.

Akshay too didn't like how the things were going. She was so loving,

so caring before marriage. How everything is changed so radically. Yet

they still love each other. It was 4:00 p.m. The bell rang. Nisha was

surprisingly happy that Akshay remembered. She ran to open the door.

Indeed Akshay was standing outside. He was smiling and had a bunch of

flowers in his hand. The two then started reliving their beautiful

days, making up for their quarrels. There was champagne, light music,

and it was raining a little outside. Overall the weather too seemed to

get romantic along with them.

But the moment came to a slight pause. The phone in the bedroom was

ringing. Quite agitated, Nisha went to pick up the phone. It was a man

on the other side.. Hello madam I am calling from the police station.

Is it Mr. Akshay Malhotra's number? Yes, it is. There was an accident

and a man died. We got your number from the man's purse. We need you

to come here and identify the body.

Nisha's heart sank. Whhhhaaat?? B-but my husband is here with me?

"Sorry madam the accident took place at 3:00 p.m. when the man was

trying to board a bus.

Nisha was about to lose her senses. How could this happen? She knew

this type of things. She had heard about this. The soul of the person

who loves you lot comes to meet you before it parts. She ran to the

drawing room. Akshay was not there. Is it true then? Has something

that bad really happened to Akshay? Has he left her forever? Oh God!

had she been given another chance she would have mended all her

faults. She rolled down on the floor awestruck.

Suddenly there was noise from the bathroom. Akshay came out and said,

“I forgot to tell you dear, my purse was stolen while I was returning

home.”

Do not let any differences affect the relationship and part you from

the one you love, It is always good to understand each other and be

together rather than losing forever due to small differences. That it

may become too late to mend them.

Life might not give u a second chance. So never waste a moment when u

can make up for your deeds. And be thankful to life for bringing Love

in your life again.

too little a time !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! RUSH HOUR

No wonder we have become a ‘like’ generation"whereby we limit our interactions and expressions to our friends and families through Facebook’s ‘like’ buttons only. 

Too busy we are sometimes even to post a comment, or a message in the inbox, let alone picking up the phone and chatting for nothing for a while.

 That is how some friendship has become, while the number of 'friends' in your Facebook list keeps growing, what an irony.

  Everybody is busy. I was wondering if its true to some extent that people in general are more sensitive, or vulnerable or receptive to attention, or atleast they expect to be remembered on their birthdays. I don’t know if its true for all ages or all gender or for all people in all countries or not, may be it’s a human thing that exists sub-consciously even if we consciously deny it. 

What do you think about it?

Elvis Presley - Forget Me Never

the hungarian song - gloomy sunday (szomorú vasárnap)

"Gloomy Sunday" is a song composed by Hungarian pianist and composer Rezső Seress in 1933, as Vége a világnak (End of the world)^[1], with alternate Szomorú vasárnap (Hungarian pronunciation: [ˈsomoruː ˈvɒʃaːrnɒp]) (Sad Sunday) lyrics written by László Jávor. The original lyrics depicted a war-stricken Hungary and a silent prayer to God. Jávor's lyrics are a mourning to a lost lover and a pledge to commit suicide to meet said lover again in the afterlife^[2