25 Frustrating Things About Being An Extrovert

hey guyz , just take some time out and have a look at this link...its amazing truely......njoy


http://www.buzzfeed.com/jessicamisener/frustrating-things-about-being-an-extrovert

1. Having a weekend night off, but no one is available to hang out.

2. Being upset and needing to talk it out with at least three different people.

3. When new friends think you’re “too clingy” because you’re initiating all of the hangouts.

4. Blurting out your thoughts on something before they’re necessarily fully formed.

5. When you come home and want to just drink wine and talk about your day with someone, but your roommate isn’t willing to hang out.

6. Feeling like you should have more shame or sense of embarrassment than you do, because you don’t mind being the center of attention.

7. People thinking you’re “needy” when you’re just trying to recharge by connecting with someone.

8. When everyone talks about how all they want to do is stay home and be on Tumblr and marathon Netflix, and you’re just like.

9. Dealing with unexpected alone time.

10. Sensing that you’re talking too much in meetings.

11. …or talking too much at work or in class in general, because it’s second nature to you.

12. When the cashier at the grocery store is like:

13. Because once you get going, sometimes you can’t stop.

14. When everyone near you at work is wearing headphones and you just want to chat.

15. Talking with your hands all the time. Maybe even TOO much.

16. Feeling more comfortable working with a large group than working by yourself.

17. Having those “OH MY GOD I NEED TO BE AROUND PEOPLE” days…

18. …but on the flip side, people expect you to ALWAYS be the life of the party.

19. You want to do yoga or meditate, but the thought of being silent for that long seems exhausting.

20. Being home alone.

21. Making your introvert friend semi-uncomfortable with all of your talking.

22. Being labeled “too intense.”

23. Feeling like you’re burning out from socializing constantly, but also feeling like you can’t stop.

24. Wondering if your voice is too loud.

25. Feeling stereotyped as shallow or unintellectual because you’re not an introvert.

26, unmarried, and childless

What’s Next?”
Both of my brothers recently had kids that more than likely complete their families. They’re both older than me, so it makes sense they’re at a different stage. They met and married their wives, they bought dogs and they had kids, all in a nice little sequence. I love watching them build their lives together. It’s a really good thing. When my last brother got married, I was in my early twenties. No one uttered anything about me getting married then.
But now? I’m 26 years old, unmarried, and childless. The comments are starting.
“What’s next?”
“When are you getting married?”
“Babies look good on you!”
“Better get started!”
I shouldn’t be overly concerned with what they’re saying. They’re only teasing or encouraging me with the next step in my life. It’s harmless! No one means anything by it, it’s just time for me to be heading in the same direction as my peers. It makes sense. I get it.
But it doesn’t feel very nice.

Believe me, I am fully aware that I am unmarried and childless. Heck, I don’t even have a real job at this point in time. I’m aware that I’m getting older. I’m aware that I’m not following the same patterns as my parents or my brothers or many of my peers. I’m aware that my biological clock is ticking. OH MY GOSH I AM SO AWARE.
So when you — friends, family, acquaintances, Twitter followers and blog readers — remind me that I’m far behind where one would expect to be at my age, it makes me feel broken. I feel like I’ve done something wrong. I feel like I’m letting you down or making some horrible mistake.

Instead of relishing in the freedom, blessings and limitless possibilities that this stage of life offers me, I am left frozen, feeling like I’m not enough. Like what I’ve done doesn’t really matter or that I’ve accomplished nothing. I’m an outcast. I’m defective. I’m panicked. When you comment on my life stage as if there was something I could do to change it, it makes me feel inadequate. Most days I truly do love where I’m at right now, but when people question my marital status, I think I’m messing up my chances to do anything worthwhile with my life.
What if my ultimate goal has nothing to do with marriage or kids or a career? What if my aim was to love people well, and to fully embrace the gifts I’ve been given? Would that be enough? What if my life goal was to simply run the race, to be called a good and faithful servant at the end of it all? Maybe that would mean marriage and children and a thriving career, but maybe it wouldn’t. Is it ok if it doesn’t?


When you ask when I’m getting married, I don’t have an answer for you. When you hint at me having kids, it makes me jealous of new parents. When you prod about my lack of a stable career, I get frustrated. When you ask these questions, it doesn’t help me grow. It doesn’t help me feel content with where I am. It does more damage than you realize. Maybe you’re just trying to make conversation or small talk, or maybe you’re genuinely interested in my life. For that, I’m very appreciative.

I would like to suggest one thing, though: instead of asking me what’s next, ask me what’s now. Ask me what God is teaching me, ask me what I’m struggling with, or what brings me joy. I am learning, I am growing, and I am happy. I would love to tell you all about it.
I am 26 years old. I don’t have a husband. I don’t have children. I don’t have a career. I don’t have what people expect I should have, but I am abundantly blessed with absurd, exhilarating, and fantastic things I would have never dreamed up on my own.
So please, my dear friends, don’t ask me what’s next. Ask me what’s now.


 A WONDERFUL STORY that i read in recent past ... compelled me to share it with you guyz....
 SOURCE :- http://convergemagazine.com/26-unmarried-and-childless-8736/

Note :P

it's safe to say that I am awesome   wink ***. People I really loved your comments. Many of you can clearly relate to my feelings about the semi-ridiculous online state of things with me . But this blog has always been a happy space for me. Needless to say, I was never really considering doing away with it entirely, but am looking for a way to make it work better for this new phase….
After having some time to think and play around and gather my thoughts, I know I will always like the challenge of blogging—of seeking out ideas and objects and finding ways to share them in a unusual and personal way. And that's just it. I like the making. I like the act of piecing a post together—of cutting things out and scooting them around the Photoshop file, playing with typefaces, adding and editing down to what I finally feel proud share. And the best posts? They take plenty of time, thought and consideration. But the effort is what makes it worthwhile...
With this in mind, things must change. It's time for the pace to become more considered and thoughtful. So, here I go. I'm taking that first step back to "slow blogging." What you'll find here is more design and less noise, more resources for you and less gimmicks (if there ever were any to begin with.) Off the top of my head. 

Agenda for the Week: (If I make a list, I'll have to commit!)
·    Playlist: July (Finally!)
·    Funny Pictures (without offence :P)
·    Advice: only your column...
Thanks for reading, commenting, and the words of encouragement. It's always nice to know I'm not alone in my thoughts. Have a wonderful week, everyone!

Thanks for reading, commenting, and the words of encouragement. It's always nice to know I'm not alone in my thoughts. Have a wonderful week, everyone!

F.R.I.E.N.D.S

These lines are dedicated to my college life, my stupid friends ,sexy seniors and all naughty juniors.....

Waha ki dhoop bhi achi lagti thi
Yahan k AC me bhi aaram nahi

Wahan Ghaas pe baithna bhi acha lagta tha
yaha Chairs pe bhi chain nahi hai

Wahan k sade se samose bhi kya swadisht hote the
Yahan ka cheez burst Pizza me bhi swad nahi

College Bus aur woh doston ki gadiyon pe baith ke gaaye hue gaano ki jaise ab dhun bhi yaad nahi
Ab bas samne ek laptop screen hai aur hasne layak koi mazak nahi

Faculty se ladte waqt ye pata bhi na the ki Manager ke samne kuch bol bhi ni payenge
Ab toh yeh tak bhi pata nahi hota ki hum wapas Ghar kab jayenge

Ek jhuti muskurahat k kiyea hum jaise jee rahe hai
Zindagi ka koi bhi ghum ho office ke kaam k saath pee rahe hai

Subah ka ek msg "aaj nahi chalte hai yaar"
Ab "its 9.30 Where the fuck are you ??" me badal gaya hai.

Pehle best friend k bday pe cake na laye to gussa ho jate the
aaj toh Best friend se b'day pe mil bhi nahi pana ho raha hai

Woh college group ki ladaiyaan jo agle din hi bhul jate the
aaj manager aur subordinate ki jung me tabdeel hua patein hai

Exam hall ki "ek line bata de yaar"
wo ek line ab google pe bhi nahi mil rahi hai

Pehle jinhe ghanto baith ke hasate the
aaj unse jee bhar k baat karne ka bhi time nahi hai

Pehle jinse mile bin din nahi kat ta tha
aaj unke bina zindagi kat rahi hai

wo mid sem me ek shabd bhi na likhne ki azadi
aaj jaise badi badi excel sheet update karne ki majburi me tabdeel ho gayi hai

"tune kitna padha plz mujhe bhi padhne de yaar" yahan koi nahi sunata
"i have done my work please review it" hi humari favourite line ban gayi hai.

Kal jinke lyea jaan tak dene ko tayaar the
aaj unse baat karne k lyea bhi hum soche baar baar hai

Kal k sapne aaj sach ho rahe hai
par saath sapne dekhne wale dost aaj door ho gaye hai

Zindagi ki kash ma kash me hum yeh tak bhool gaye hai
kal tak jo apne the aaj begaane ho gaye hai

dil kehta saari bandishe tod ke wapas chale jayee...
ek baar for apne frnds k paas laut jaaye.......................

There is little Kindness in each one of us..in every little step we take....

A beautiful video......

5 Quick Ways to Deal With the Confusion and Conflict Within You !!!!!

thought of sharing it with you about my thots!!!!

I am going through a transition ….and coz of that I was highly confused and conflicted….there is something going on and I feel it in some part of myself…..confused,disorganized,frustrated. I really don’t know what’s what anymore and life is not making ne sense….

Thou obviously it use to be logical and I was very sure what I had to do ,but now it’s all in the air…I know ,because I’ve been there and this is how I have started dealing with it……..

1.       Chaos

Before  anything new emerge , there is chaos…..similarly ,whenever I am about to have a break though I experience confusion and chaos…obviously confusion is a prerequisite state in order for me to have breakthrough experiences ….and its true that whenever I feel confused ,something or the other is definitely happening within me….

It doesn't always seem like that, but once I get through to the other side, it notice that something has changed for the better. The same thing happens whenever I  learn something new. At first, it seems confusing and it just doesn't make sense. But when I return to the material a few days or weeks later, suddenly the bulb lightens and I understand more than i did before.

2.       Acceptance

At times when the things are not going right I often feel like my whole life is crumbling away..at that time I have nothing to do than to accept whatever is going within me, truly its very hard in the beginning ,coz I found it scary to face my fears and all the negative emotions ..just like others I also tried to running from the emotions and it was leading me nowhere…then the last resort that I find is looking around how happy most people are (HINT :- they r miserable).

I Look inside and breathe into my emotions .accept whatever is there and get curious about what kind of shape my feelings are,what is the color and how are they moving within my body..it sounds crazy,but it does work yaa.

3.       Release 

My mum always tell me “the more you let go of old the easier my life will be ,if you try to hold on ,you suffer …letting go means opening to new ideas ,new opportunities ,Nothing is constant and they keep on coming and going ..the job you once had no longer exists but then it is not an end coz when one door closes ,another opens.The problem is that most people stay and knock at the closed door for the rest of their life. Then they wonder why no one is opening the door.This doesn't have to happen, because you can open your mind, release the old and embrace the new. This is scary, because it is the unknown.And we humans tend to like what's familiar. Even to the point where we will hold onto negative emotions and behaviors rather than let go, because they are more familiar. “ and this is what I have been implementing now and made it a key point for happy living. Love u Mum for this….!!!!

4.       Get Help

HELP HELP HELP  I have a strong belief that in order to speed  up my progress in any field I prefer first working with. I'm not talking about a psychotherapist. I'm talking about some people like Parents ,xperienced and well lead person, trustworthy friends,Mentor ,But only those whom you can trust and follow.

The reason I make these statements, is because in my life, the biggest changes have happened by taking help from the people mentioned above .You can't always see where you are stuck, and that is where another fresh pair of eyes comes in and that is a very reason why I value those few people more than my life. The problem is that most people don't like to ask for help, because it is viewed as a sign of weakness in today's society. I used to think like this as well, but I didn't start to really excel until I started opening up to coaching and getting feedback.

5.       Cycle 

History repeats ….so will this cycle  continually repeat itself, because that’s what cycles do. Just like a wave builds up and crashes and returns to the sea, so will our life have its ups and downs. The sooner I accept that, the better i will feel. Coz I know I  will go through confusion and clarity over and over again. It’s a part of life.

The bottom line is that most confusion and conflict is created within you. That means that you alone hold the keys to your salvation.

HERE I AM...a sweet poem on me...!!!!!!!! :)

I AM A GIRL!

I push doors that clearly say PULL!

I laugh harder when i try to explain why am laughing!

I walk in2 a room n 4get why i was der!

I try to cook even if its just maggi!

I lie sumtimes to hide the pain!

I cry for silly reasons...!

I limit infinity to the person who means a lot to me...!

I am not so strong as my smile seems to be!

I get attached to people who care even a little about me!

A broken nail is as painful as a broken heart!

I say its a long story when its realy not!

I fall into love too hard and too fast!

Then I take time to move on.

But once i realise its time to move on,I never look back!

Then life changes for good!

YES! am a girl and am freaking proud of it!!!!!

Daud

Daud

ये दौड़  हैं संसार की, ये दौड़ हैं इन्सान की

दौड़ रहा इस दौड़ में,  जब से मै पैदा हुआ

माँ ने बोला मेरे लिए, तू तेज थोडा और दौड़ 

लोगो ने कहा क्या करेगा, ऐसे धीरे दौड़ के 

मैं और तेज दौड़ा, मैं और तेज दौड़ा

दौड़ दौड़ मे ना जाने, कब  बचपना निकल गया

बड़ा हुआ तो पैसो की, दौड़ में मैं पड़ गया

लटक रही तलवार, उमीदों की मेरे ऊपर

जीत लूगा इस दौड़ को मैं किसी भी हाल पर

यह सोच मैं दौड़ा, मैं और तेज दौड़ा

कभी मैं बीबी और, बच्चो के लिए दौड़ा

कभी उन आंसुओ को, मिटने के लिए दौड़ा

कभी उस गरीबी को, हटाने के लिए दौड़ा

यह सोच मैं भागता, भागता ही रहा

खड़ा हु उस मुकाम पर, राह ख़त्म होती दिख रही

सब दोस्त पीछे छुट  गये, सब यार पीछे रह  गये

जिनके लिए मैं दौड़ा, वो दुनिया से ही रूठ गये

अकेला खड़ा इस मोड़ में, सब छुट गया इस दौड़ में

अब लग रहा ये दौड़ हैं हैवान की शैतान की

समझ न आ रहा मुझे, क्यों मैं भागता रहा

यह सोच बाकी जिंदगी, मैं यू ही जागता जागता रहा 

यह सोच बाकी जिंदगी, मैं यू ही जागता जागता रहा .....

by one of my friend siddhart.

a true story.......

It was 25th January 2011. Nisha was waiting for her husband Akshay. It

was their marriage anniversary. Things have got changed since their

marriage. From the cute couple they turned into a fighting one. The

quarrel everyday on every small thing. Nisha gave up thinking that

Akshay must have forgotten their anniversary and surely won't be back

home on time.

Akshay too didn't like how the things were going. She was so loving,

so caring before marriage. How everything is changed so radically. Yet

they still love each other. It was 4:00 p.m. The bell rang. Nisha was

surprisingly happy that Akshay remembered. She ran to open the door.

Indeed Akshay was standing outside. He was smiling and had a bunch of

flowers in his hand. The two then started reliving their beautiful

days, making up for their quarrels. There was champagne, light music,

and it was raining a little outside. Overall the weather too seemed to

get romantic along with them.

But the moment came to a slight pause. The phone in the bedroom was

ringing. Quite agitated, Nisha went to pick up the phone. It was a man

on the other side.. Hello madam I am calling from the police station.

Is it Mr. Akshay Malhotra's number? Yes, it is. There was an accident

and a man died. We got your number from the man's purse. We need you

to come here and identify the body.

Nisha's heart sank. Whhhhaaat?? B-but my husband is here with me?

"Sorry madam the accident took place at 3:00 p.m. when the man was

trying to board a bus.

Nisha was about to lose her senses. How could this happen? She knew

this type of things. She had heard about this. The soul of the person

who loves you lot comes to meet you before it parts. She ran to the

drawing room. Akshay was not there. Is it true then? Has something

that bad really happened to Akshay? Has he left her forever? Oh God!

had she been given another chance she would have mended all her

faults. She rolled down on the floor awestruck.

Suddenly there was noise from the bathroom. Akshay came out and said,

“I forgot to tell you dear, my purse was stolen while I was returning

home.”

Do not let any differences affect the relationship and part you from

the one you love, It is always good to understand each other and be

together rather than losing forever due to small differences. That it

may become too late to mend them.

Life might not give u a second chance. So never waste a moment when u

can make up for your deeds. And be thankful to life for bringing Love

in your life again.

too little a time !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! RUSH HOUR

No wonder we have become a ‘like’ generation"whereby we limit our interactions and expressions to our friends and families through Facebook’s ‘like’ buttons only. 

Too busy we are sometimes even to post a comment, or a message in the inbox, let alone picking up the phone and chatting for nothing for a while.

 That is how some friendship has become, while the number of 'friends' in your Facebook list keeps growing, what an irony.

  Everybody is busy. I was wondering if its true to some extent that people in general are more sensitive, or vulnerable or receptive to attention, or atleast they expect to be remembered on their birthdays. I don’t know if its true for all ages or all gender or for all people in all countries or not, may be it’s a human thing that exists sub-consciously even if we consciously deny it. 

What do you think about it?

Elvis Presley - Forget Me Never

the hungarian song - gloomy sunday (szomorú vasárnap)

"Gloomy Sunday" is a song composed by Hungarian pianist and composer Rezső Seress in 1933, as Vége a világnak (End of the world)^[1], with alternate Szomorú vasárnap (Hungarian pronunciation: [ˈsomoruː ˈvɒʃaːrnɒp]) (Sad Sunday) lyrics written by László Jávor. The original lyrics depicted a war-stricken Hungary and a silent prayer to God. Jávor's lyrics are a mourning to a lost lover and a pledge to commit suicide to meet said lover again in the afterlife^[2

WHATEVER HAPPENS ...HAPPENS FOR GOOD...!!!! LIFE AND ITS COLOURS...

A BEAUTIFUL ARTICLE WRITTEN BY SOMEONE UNKNOWN..REALLY TOUCHED MY HEART.....WANTED TO SHARE WITH YOU ALL...

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were ment to be there…..

Thery serve some sort of purpose ,teach you a lesson,cheat you  or help figure out who you are and who you want to become.

You never know these people may be your roommates ,your best of friends,your life partner ,professor,long lost friend,lover or even a complete stranger who,when you lock eyes with them you know that very moment that they will affect your life in some profound way….may be even if you want then also you cannot ignore that person because destiny has written that person to be a part of your life..no matter how hard you try to keep yourself away from them……

And sometimes things happen to you and at times  they seem horrible ,painful and unfair but in reflection you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you would never have realized your potential ,strength and will power of heart.

Being generous is not  a bad characterstic but being generous to cowards is the worst misake that one does..but  this itself is a lesson not only for you but also for the other person who holds the position of coward…

Everything happens for a reason, nothing happens by chance or by means of good or bad luck…illness ,injury ,love,lost moments or true greatness and sheer stupidity all occurs to test the limits of soul…..

The worst part with this is…because of one person’s deed the whole family suffers  ,or some one close to that person suffers. Knowingly and unknowingly god gives back everything in same form or some other form to the person. Inshort we are liable of our own Karma.

JUST A TEST FOR YOURSELF….READ THE WHOLE PARAGRAPH FIRST AND THEN FOLLOW WHATEVER IS WRITTEN IN THIS……

“now gradually close your eyes…..

Ponder over what  all wrong you have done in life…of all the negative things you have hidden from your family,friends ….of the fights that you have had ,of the lies that you have said…of the feelings that you have played with, of the disrepect that you have showed, of the cowardness that you have showed to the ones who actully loved and cared for you. Now think about those people who were associated with you in some way or the other and how you actually affected them with the negativity of yours. Imagine one person at a  time who loved you die hartedly and how have you hurted that person... Now think about your present state…the present happenings around you,think about all the negativity around you ,how is your life , being affected by these things and then just try to associate the negative deeds that you did before and the present suffering you have. Ponder over it…  the answer about your problems will be in front of your eyes………”

Without these small test ,if they be events,illness or relationships,life would be like a smooth paved ,straight ,flat road to no where..safe and comfortable but dull and utterly pointless.

The people you meet in you life time ,who affect your life in some way or the other  and successes and downfalls you experience in your life  ,they are the ones who create “who you are”..even the bad expereince can be learned from them…and those lessons are the hardest  and probabbly the most important ones in life…………

If someone hurts you,betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them …for they have helped you to learn about trust and imporatance of being cautious to whome you open your heart….they are in turn teaching you a lesson and unknowingly falling prey  over  their  deeds….a simple way to handle those people is  - just sit back and relax coz on your part it’s the honestly and god is watching it….

And

If someone loves you,love them back unconditionally ,not only because they love you but because they are teaching you to love and open your heart and eyes,to things you would have never seen ao felt without them….if someone loves you,feel your self lucky to be loved ,coz rare of the rarest people get an opportunity to be loved unconditonally by true people….

Make everyday count ,appreciate every moment and take from it everything that you possible can,for you may never be able to experience it again..and never ever try to play with others life…coz then your life will start playing with you …..

Talk to people you have never talked to before and actully listen ,let yourself fall in love ,breakfree and set your sights high,You can make your life anything you  wish….a bed of roses or the life of thorns…create your own life and then go out and live it…be masters of your own life…and also the sufferes by doing wrong.

I wish you all the best in your  endeavours as well as struggles in life..have a fighting spirit and never hesitate to get back in the struggle….


Writer unknown........:)

Together In Sickness and in Health, till Death Do them Apart!!!!!

ODE TO DUTY.........

Take me away with u 

into the sky which seems so blue...

where you live with your angels

all away from daily life's tangels 

the place where onli happiness prevails

n saddness has no place even to trail...

i m longing to die and come to u...

for no one on this earth is soo true

forgive me for all my sins...

since my life has begin..

the negativity and all the lies.

which i have told will end once i die

but pray to u dear god..

dunt give pain to my loved one ,for i will sob

forgive them for what they have done wrong..

coz my journey with them was like a sweet summer song.

 thanku so much ,for the life which i had

which made me happy and also sad

wish to b back in this world again..

to live my life...that has remain...<3 <3

Nights I Can't Remember, Friends I'll Never Forget by Toby Keith

ja rhay ho agr.

a song for those whose loved ones are away from them..i a sure you will love it..if you have a pure heart...

Human life is very deep, and our modern dominant lifestyle is not..

Life......

a four letter word ..with a heavy meaning...something which gets mature with every passing day..giving you experiences and live examples to learn and be careful of....

life is not about being happy..but its about finding happiness in every little thing you do...its not about having leafy pockets and hefty bank balances ..its about earning that 1 rupee all by yourself...it is not about living in huge mansion with rich tapestry and antique cutlery but its about eating in small dining table with our fingers and short steel plates...its not about lemozines..but its about the smile that one carries riding on the bicycle. Its not about having huge bunch of dishonest ,cruel and clever friends but about honest and innocent relationship that exist in every friendship,its not about buying an IPL team but capturing the heart beat of every indian who is watching the IPL match,its not about illuminating the whole bunglow with lights its about those people who r living in small huts with street light illuminating their surroundings...its not about spending huge handsome of money over yoga class but about giving money to an orphanage for the betterment of parentless children....its not about staying in a  nuclear family but about the join family fun and every relation that exist among the members, ...

As my Dad always Quote..."by the grace of almighty we have been bestowed with all the luxuries of life but we find it minute and insignificant when we compare them with the people who are on a higher level and crip about it now and then ...but we forget that ,comparison is made both ways....and forget to look at the people who r at below level...." which helps me to be a down to earth person.:) :)

just remember one thing....

Occasionally in life there are those moments of unutterable fulfillment which cannot be completely explained by  symbols called words. Their meanings can only be felt by the inaudible language of the heart.

so i want to live my life in such a way...so that when ill come to die even the undertaker will be sorry.

LEO SAYER-When I Need You

More Than I Can Say [Official Video]